Develop a capacity to forgive.
Forgiveness is useful. Forgiveness stops the cycle of discrimination, resentment and vengeance. Forgiveness can lead those who've been treated unjustly and unfairly toward recovery of self-respect and peace.
Forgiveness is a commitment to a process of change. Move away from your role as victim and release the control and power the offending person and situation have had in your life. As you let go of grudges, you'll no longer define your life by how you've been hurt. You might even find compassion and understanding.
Forgiveness doesn't mean that you deny the other person's responsibility for hurting you, and it doesn't minimize or justify the wrong. Forgiveness is a decision to let go of resentment and thoughts of revenge.
You can forgive the person without excusing the act. The act that hurt or offended you might always remain a part of your life, but forgiveness can lessen its grip on you and help you focus on other, positive parts of your life.